- “I’m sorry but this chair is uncomfortable”
- “I’m sorry but can you make something not on the menu?”
- “I’m sorry but could you get me…?”
Our bodies are now making new and different demands on us. We ignore them at our own peril.
As we acclimate to our “new normal”, we learn to honor our body’s requests around pain, comfort, flare-ups, relapses, prevention, sleep, getting healthier etc. This is a way of protecting ourselves – of caring for ourselves. You could call it self-love if you want…
And living well probably requires that we’re out and about some of the time – with others, in places not our home. Others become intermediaries to what our body’s need. Others who become witnesses. Others who see if not feel the impact of illness – on our lives and theirs.
Here’s the thing: You didn’t ask for this. You didn’t make it happen. You don’t have to apologize for being you. In fact, apologizing may show a lack of respect for yourself – a diminishing of your worth relative to the “healthy” folks around you.
First, at least ask for what will serve and help you. Not asking is hugely disrespectful to yourself. It’s just being mean! Second, you can ask directly and confidently for what will help you without apologizing – and not necessarily be rude. Worrying about how someone else views your needs is just another waste of what precious little energy you may have anyway.
If you’re body is like mine, it’s bossy and strict. And it has my best interests at heart. I respect it by honoring it’s request as much as possible. And I respect myself and others by not apologizing. On a good day at least, I am unapologetically sick.
Stand tall – proudly and powerfully (metaphorically speaking of course if you’re legs aren’t working) in ALL of who you are. You deserve respect. Don’t you? ~Z