Who’s Sucking The Life Out Of You? Part I

One of the most powerful actions you can take to reclaim your wellness now and in the future is to cut loose the people in your life who suck the life out of you. Those folks for whom you don’t have any functional defense against, despite your myriad of interpersonal skills (here’s a good/brief article). This is especially vital if they are enablers of some of the “old” ways of living that you’re trying to transcend, or “accomplices” to unhealthy habits you’re trying to break.

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Are your friends helping protect or threatening the bubble of your life?

Put frankly, your realities (read: your available resources) have changed, and probably not for the better (I’ve yet to learn of an illness that gives us super powers ;-). People that were not hindrances before, might be now. You need people in your life who help you feel “bigger”, not “smaller”.

The first and most important step though, is to make the decision that your LIFE is important and valuable enough to cut someone out of it. This is a YES or a NO choice. Be clear and committed on your choice or else you’ll probably half-ass your implementation – and maybe make things worse. Believe me. But do this part well, and the rest gets easier.

And no, this is not going to be painless – there will be a cost. In the short term, there may be some additional suffering. But in the long term, you’ll increase your power and your freedom. And THAT can go a long way towards gaining confidence and hope that will empower you to make the many other hard choices and actions that are certainly coming down the pike… ~Z