“Flare ups” happen. How flexible are you?

Flexibleable to bend without breakingcharacterized by a ready capability to adapt to new, different, or changing requirements

with some forethought, life doesn't have to be this complicated...
With some forethought, life doesn’t have to be this complicated…

Flare ups, bad days, relapses… Whatever they are for you – they happen. Even in the best of times they happen – the day after a sleepless night, colds, flu, headaches etc. Sometimes we see them coming and even know how we’ve contributed. Sometimes they seemingly come out of nowhere.

Choice point: consciously choosing to respond (vs unconsciously reacting) to the news that your body isn’t going to live up to what you had planned for it. Can you step maturely towards your highest priorities or fall victim to self-defeating thoughts? Your first step matters

The truth for most of us is, even those “flare ups” that come out of the blue aren’t really a surprise, because they’ve happened before and will happen again. So we can anticipate this, yes?

Fighting through it is one option. And sometimes it’s worth it – at a cost. Ignoring your limitations – pretending they don’t exist (and not changing your plans) is another even less enlightened choice.

John Wooden said “Don’t let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do”.

Make a list of things you CAN do when the “bad day” inevitably arrives. Can you read? Listen? Watch? Organize? Plan? Talk? Delegate? Reschedule things? Take breaks? Do some seemingly trivial thing you’ve been avoiding? Ask for help?

Honor your anger or grief or sadness or self-pity (versus suppressing it). Then find your list and go.

Consciously moving on to the back-up plans requires hope and optimism and belief and faith in your future. It’s not always easy. And it won’t get easier if we don’t plan and intentionally practice.

Flexibility (and persistence) are prerequisites to resilience…   ~Z

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