I struggled with this apparent contradiction in a big way for a long time – especially after I started really taking care of myself. In most objective ways, I’m healthier than I was before I “got sick”. And I certainly live a MUCH healthier lifestyle than at any other time in my life. And yet, I’m still “sick”. How can I be this healthy and still be this sick? So what am I?
So don’t answer this question. You’re not either “healthy” or “sick”. You’re some combination of both. “Healthy” is not an all-or-nothing proposition. Neither is sickness for the most part. And trying to answer this question rarely moves us forward in a good way.
Better questions to ask are about what you’re doing to become healthier, or how are you living well? Living well is about learning how to create and live healthy lifestyles that are harmonious with what we know to be our most important priorities and values – and putting illness IN THAT CONTEXT!
Being sick is only part of the picture of who you are and who you are becoming.
Imagine illness like a snowstorm when you’re driving. It’s a big problem for sure, and you can make adjustments. You can metaphorically turn on your wipers, slow down, watch out for speeding bozos, and crank up some good tunes…, and still get where you’re going. Plus, you might be singing when you arrive! It really IS about how we react to what’s happening to us.
A phrase that has served me well when I get stuck in my black and white thinking is: “I am that also”. As in, “I am sick also” or “I am well also”.
Using this perspective can be liberating by allowing us to define ourselves in all our beautiful and seemingly contradictory complexity. Try it out. Or wait to try it out (“I am a procrastinator also” 😉 ~Z