Are setbacks setbacks?

I’ve had some “setbacks” lately.

Some opportunities that don’t seem so much like opportunities now. A few “relapses” in my health that “shouldn’t” have happened…

And I’m realizing (again…) that judging events to be “setbacks”, or “disappointments” or

If coffee can smile, surely you can too?
If coffee can smile, surely you can too?

even “failures” is my choice. Things happened (or didn’t happen the way I wanted them to), and they are done.

What if they are fundamentally neutral events? And I, due to my expectations and hopes, have colored them as “setbacks” without even thinking? Well I have, and that’s my point – that it’s an old and unhelpful habit.

In fact, my resistance to the things I’m experiencing is yet another layer of drama and suffering I’ve added to my life (I bet I’m the only one ;-).

Consider this: When something happens that you automatically react to as a setback or a problem, you have a couple of choices:

  1. You can “re-do” how you react to it: Disappointment/anger/fear/sadness are legitimate options. So are gratitude and joy. So is a smile. It doesn’t have to be one or the other!
  2. And then, since I’m not dead yet, I get to choose what to do next: “This being the case, how shall I proceed?” as the saying goes… Is there an opportunity here that didn’t exist before?

Many events are simply information AND a sign that you are making movement in your life. The only way to know if Plan A is really a good opportunity is to give it a go and see what happens.

Regardless of the outcome, you can still smile…   ~Z